Jesus on the cross in Newnan... revisited.

I have experienced some strange things since I looked on my facebook page a couple of weeks ago and saw that note… “You can see Jesus on here plain as day…”

The things that have happened have been nothing new, just new to me. This hasn’t really been a learning experience, I think I have come out of this with more of an affirmation of my views toward humanity. The overall feeling I’m left with at this point is one of exhaustion and intolerance. I expect, for some strange reason, for people to think about these things the same way I do… That is my flaw, expecting something from people when it comes to behavior. When going into something like this you know that there will be detractors. I set myself up for this, I went into it knowing it, prepared my psyche for it.

The day after I made this cross I saw the face and hands on it for the first time. When I went back and looked at the picture I had taken and placed on facebook I could plainly see the face on it. I was amazed that I handled it that much and had not seen it. My reaction to it was one of confusion, surprise, a touch of fear, and a sense of calm. I thought it was interesting and couldn’t wrap my mind around the probability of how a face and the right and left hand could just happen to fall into correct position like that.

The reactions I have witnessed have run the gamut from “I don’t see it” to nearly falling down and yelling about their undying love for Jesus and God… When someone claims that they can’t see it I show it to them, I haven’t yet encountered anyone that hasn’t been able to see it once its been pointed out. I have spoken with several ministers form various faiths about the piece and they all have the same reaction, they see it, they say it’s a sign from God about his love and that it’s a blessing.

The type of individual that I wasn’t prepared for… Well, they have left me with a further disdain for people in general. These are the people who see it, speak about it being a miracle or strange, or interesting when face to face with you, then detract from it when they aren‘t near you, acting as if I’m a backwoods rube who designed and made this thing for my own gain. I’ve been interviewed by people who have been a huge cheerleader for the cross while speaking to me in person and then taken the point of view of a skeptic when finishing their piece for print or airtime. By the same token, the people who have attacked me outright as some sort of heretic who is only seeking gain, have shown themselves to be a special kind of leach… I put them all in the same boat, disingenuous… I’ve had people who have been very upfront about their dislike for me and what I’m doing, loudly voicing their opinion all over the internet and to anyone who would listen, quietly send me a note asking if they could be tagged in the photograph or could use it to promote something they themselves are working on.

Religious intolerance is a new one as well... People who have claimed, time and again, to be open minded about their beliefs, not "limiting" themselves to the standard Christian mantra when it comes to spiritually. The very people who bark the loudest about hating the closed minded way people are that believe in a Christian God, have been the most closed minded about this piece. My take on this is, "What? It's a piece of wood with a few images on it, why would you go immediately to thinking that people believe that God exists in this?" Yet again I am treated to the nonconformist, peace loving people that accept everyone... as long as you agree with them and their ideology...

I’ve taken the laughter, the snickers, the negative comments, and derision along with the good. Some people have been inspired by the piece, finding peace and calm when handling it or praying with it. Some have sought it out for these purposes. People have cried while holding it or believed themselves to be blessed by it somehow. I had a woman come to see it who thought it may make her feel closer to her husband that had recently passed away…

Whatever the reason, for whatever the purpose, good or bad, this cross seems to have quite the affect on people. I just wish people could see it the way I do… Something that is interesting.

Jesus appears on a cross...

A little over a year ago I went out on the Kawasaki mule to look for wood for walking sticks. I spent a few hours traveling around the woods, looking, walking, pondering and searching for the right pieces to choose. The last stop on my trip was near my fathers shop, just down the dirt road from where he worked on his Native American crafts before he passed away in 2008. There is a good stand of young poplar trees growing beside the road, so I began walking through them and picking out the ones I thought would make good hiking and walking sticks. When I arrived home I had a good “mule load” of pieces to work with.

Since then I have pulled them out one at a time and made everything from walking sticks to Santa ornaments from them. A couple of weeks ago I noticed that I only had one piece of that wood left. I decided to make a walking stick…

I took the piece down and measured it out for the walking stick. I cut the handle and the length for the body, I then notched the end of the body and cut a hole in the handle, covered them with glue and put them together. The next stage is to put a screw though the two pieces to ensure they hold together, the final part is wrapping a leather strap around the handle for a decorative effect, then I began work on the finish…

When the walking stick was completed I had a couple of pieces, around a foot long, left over. We do a few local shows, and with labor day weekend coming up I started thinking about what I have in inventory, and what I may need for the show I would be in. I had made a few crosses before, varying in length from a foot or so down to five or six inches. They have always sold well, so I decided to use the left over pieces and make a couple of crosses.

I took out the first piece, it was shorter than the other, and started to carve the ends down. Normally I debark the entire piece and cut the wood square, then notch the cross length and the body to fit together. This time I felt that if I left the bark on it would look pretty good, so I gave it a test run. I worked with the two pieces, carving the ends down, sanding them a bit to remove the rough edges, fitting them together, taking them apart, flipping the cross piece around first one way then another, carving a bit here and there to secure a good snug fit. When I was happy with the result I put on the glue to hold them together, then wrapped a piece of leather around it for decoration, then put a hook on the back and ran a small piece of leather through it so it could hang on a wall. I looked at it, tested the fit of the pieces and hold of the glue, tugged the leather to make sure it was secure and was pleased with the outcome. As with most things I make I stepped out on the front porch and snapped a picture of the cross with my cell phone and posted it on facebook. I then sat it aside and grabbed the next piece and repeated the process…

The two crosses sat for the rest of the evening on the table next to me. Later that night I thought of my nephew, Michael Bloodworth… he had recently been baptized and joined Cedar Creek Baptist Church here in Newnan, he had commented before about liking my work, so I decided, in light of his new found faith, that I would give him one of the crosses as a gift.

I decided to give him the smaller of the two crosses and tossed it in the Kawasaki mule as I headed out to meet my son’s school bus at the end of the driveway. Once he was on board the mule we headed next door to visit my mother for a bit and show her the cross. She was engaged in an afternoon card game with a few other southern ladies, they passed the cross around and commented about it, then we headed out to my nephew’s house to give it to him. Michael’s grandfather Jack was there and told us that he was out for a bit with my niece Brittany and their son Bennett, so I left the cross with him to pass along to Michael when he got home.

Later that evening I received a notification on my cell phone that Brittany had posted on my facebook wall, so I took a look and saw that she had written a thank you to me for the cross and added the line, “You know the face of Jesus is on this cross? You can see it plain as day…” so I responded that I wanted to see it.. We headed over there after dinner to take a look at it, and sure enough, there it was. A likeness of the face of Jesus, very similar to the face on the Shroud of Turin.

I couldn’t believe that I had taken the time to make the cross, took a picture of it and posted it on facebook, had it next to me all evening, then carried it around all afternoon, and had never noticed it. I even went back to my facebook page and looked at the picture, and could see it there… As we were looking at the piece Michael noticed something strange on the cross length where the hands would be nailed into place… In the spot where his left hand would be you could clearly see, well… a left hand with its thumb sticking straight up, you could easily count all five fingers, and a line, as if it were a lash or rope across his forearm. I looked at it and saw it immediately, then I looked at the other end where his right hand would be, and there it was, his right hand… Again, with the thumb extended upward… a literal cold chill ran down my spine.

We began looking over the piece and found it a strange thing to behold. I took it back down to my mother’s house to show her. I walked in and said, “Put your glasses on I want to show you something..” I handed the cross to her and asked, “Do you see anything odd about this?” she stared at it for a few moments, then said, “I see a face on it…” I pointed out the hands to her and she saw them as well. That was an odd moment.

Since that evening, quite a few odd moments have taken place. Several people that have handled the cross have reported to me that they have been left with a strange sense of calmness once they’ve held it. One of my long time friends handled the piece and prayed with it, later that evening he said to me, “You know me, and you know I wouldn’t just say this, but since I prayed with that cross, my left hand has been tingling…”

Several pastors have looked at the cross, a catholic priest has blessed it, we were featured in an article on the front page of our local paper about it, and we have received calls and emails from people all over the region wanting to see it.

I like to think of it this way… that for a brief moment in time, in some strange, cosmic way, my father sent me a note, I can hear him as plain as day… “Boy… I’m proud of you and the work you’re doing, now stop ogling this piece of wood and get busy…”

The South I know

My father used to have a sign with the saying “American by birth, Southern by the grace of God” hanging in his shop. I like that…

Another quote I like, that I just heard this evening, is, “The south is the soul of America…”

You hear people bad mouthing the southern United States everywhere. Rednecks, hillbillies, inbred, etc etc… we’ve heard them all. We’ve been made fun of in every medium you can imagine. I’ve had people that have moved away from here use the line, “Thank God I got away from there..” funny thing is… they always seem to come back.

When talking about the south you have to recognize first that we are all aware of the bad things. But then… reality, more often than not, isn’t quite the same as perception is it? What most people know to be true isn’t actually true at all.

Contrary to what you may learn through media and modern text books about the civil war, the vast majority of white southerners were not standing around in fine clothes, sipping mint juleps while their slaves worked the fields… Most southerners were on about the same economic level as the slaves. Indeed, most people that lived in the south barely scratched out a living at all. The civil war wasn’t fought over slavery, it was an issue of unfair taxation on the exportation of goods from the south because people in Washington didn’t want too much power to shift from the good old boy network of industrialists to the “nouveau riche” hands of southerners… but then, I’m not debating history…

What is the south that I know?

The south that I know is a place where it didn’t matter what financial status you were born into, or what race for that matter, everybody played together as kids. We didn’t question things when we were little, you just did what was expected of you or suffered the consequences. Growing up, discipline was bred into you from day one. When you crossed that line you would hear the call of “go get me switch” and you knew what was to follow, so you towed the line… well, most of the time. It’s a place where you can walk up to a chimney sitting in an open field and have someone tell you that a plantation once stood there, but was burned down when union troops came through. The same ground, undisturbed, still sits there. History is alive here.

The south is a place where the humidity comes to life at night and wraps its arms around you, attempting to pull you away from the world that you know and throw you head first into a world of whiskey soaked voodoo that you never knew existed. There is a glue that holds the south together with a sense of community that cant be understood unless you’ve lived in it. This sense of unity is exercised all over the south on Friday nights at high school football games and every Sunday morning at the churches that dot the landscape.

In the south you’re expected to sit down for a while and talk to people. There shouldn’t be running in and out of places to grab what you need so you can rush back home. When you stroll into a business you’re expected to look for people that you know, and if you don’t know anyone, you’re expected to act as if whoever comes up to you and asks if you need help is a long lost cousin you haven’t seen in years. The art of conversation is a dying one…

We fix things when they don’t work right, with whatever we have available to us that will do the job, usually duct tape… and we don’t really give a damn what you think about it. That’s another thing about us that’s been bred into us from birth, being frugal and making do with what you have. You would be shocked to know that all those forwarded emails you get hallmarking the latest “redneck photos” are usually filled with photos that were shot north of the Mason Dixon line… just as most of the people of walmart photos are… like I said, perception versus reality.. it’s a bitch…

We hold strong to tradition here. There was a period in our history when there was a literal attempt to burn away our traditions, and we’re still pissed off about it. While General Sherman murdered, robbed, raped, and burned his way across the state I live in he was followed by two groups of people. The first group was comprised of slaves seeking freedom. The second group was made up of soldiers bent upon retribution. When he finally reached his goal he burned a bridge behind him, leaving the slaves to the mercy of the soldiers that were hot on his heels… Mercy is what they got because by the time this rolled around the united states government was the largest purchaser of slaves in the history of this country, buying slaves from Cuba to send to the frontier to fight Indians since everyone else was busy with the war. Most of the slaves that were left behind actually took up arms against the union soldiers for this little bit of helpfulness. Regardless of what we are shown by media, we still teach the things our fathers taught us to our children. Reeducation can sometimes be a pain, but in the long run its worth it. Sherman was talked out of destroying Savannah by its citizens, bearing gallons of whiskey and common sense. They took the “just get him drunk and keep him smiling til he gets bored and goes home” approach… it worked.

We just do what has to be done. When hurricane Katrina blew through I was talking about it online with people from England in a forum. They were appalled with the slow response of the federal government. I asked this question, “the area of total devastation from that one storm covered more than the total of your entire island, if that happened there, how quick would parliament react?” we don’t depend on the government to clean up the mess, we already know they are full of shit. So we just do it ourselves. That is what we have done throughout all of our history.

We sound funny when we talk, and we like it.

We would rather spend the evening in the front yard with our kids chasing fireflies than going to a wine tasting. There just isn’t any sweeter sound in the world than the noise a slamming screen door makes when kids are running outside to play. Toss a few other people in the mix and you have the recipe for a full night of front porch sitting that nothing could beat. Conversation about everything from what the neighbors are doing to the very existence of god is sure to be had, and is looked for with relish and contentment.

Being born here, I’ve gotten to do some pretty amazing things. I’ve stood on a spot in Savannah where slaves were sold right off the boats from Cuba. I’ve read diaries kept by soldiers and those waiting at home for their return from the civil war, now that gives you a fairly accurate picture of what life was really like here then. I grew up in a small southern town where everybody knew me and we share all the same memories of people and places. I’ve smelled the freshly cut grass on a Friday night football field before the game started. I stood atop a mountain and looked into a valley where people died trying to simply protect their homes and families from an invading army. I stood alone at doctor buzzards grave at midnight and listened to the wind moving through the moss in the live oaks. I’ve traded for shrimp right off the boat at the docks when they first come in off the Atlantic. I’ve sat on the pier at Tybee island and watched the sunrise. I’ve listened to my father and his brothers tell stories while sitting around a fire all night. I sat on a front porch with my grandfather as he told me how he and his new bride worked and raised their children in the face of adversity, and beat the odds. I’ve drank moonshine directly from a still hidden in the woods. I played golf with my mother in the early hours of a Saturday morning. I sat in a church and listened to a little Cambodian man tell the story of how he escaped a genocidal regime. I stood for over an hour staring into the faces of my Cherokee ancestors in an old photograph. I cried when I learned of the death of an old black woman that didn’t know how old she was or how to read or write, but was there every day when I got home from school with a glass of ice water just for me. I brushed the cheek of my father while I stood next to him in the hospital and the world I knew came crashing down so hard I couldn’t breathe, and… by the grace of God, I am raising my sons in the same place I grew up in. That is the south I know.

The haunted bridge...

The meal had ended hours before, yet we sat there talking. The conversation had turned to one of the favored topics, ghosts and haunted houses. We were spinning tales when a new one was sprung on us. It seems that the bridge on Roscoe Road was haunted by the spirit of a woman that had lost a child there before the new bridge was built.

Before the current bridge was built the road hugged the sharp curve to the right as you went down hill around what was a small quarry on your right, where stone had been cut to use in Dunaway Gardens, an area directly across the road, that once played host to a theater that featured shows starring people like Minnie Pearl. When you rounded the curve a guardrail was to your left, topping a bank that led down to a deep creek on the edge of a swamp. You had to make an immediate left to get on the bridge, which was an old affair, with a framework above the bridge, a rather rickety old thing to look at. The new construction had called for a straightening of the road as well as the bridge being replaced, so that now it flowed from a smooth curve to the right onto a straightaway heading over the bridge.

The story we were presented with went that a woman had rounded the curve at a high rate of speed and gone through the guardrail, ending up in the creek. She had been traveling home with her child, a baby in the front seat with her, when the accident occurred. She was never able to find her baby despite an intense search by the local sheriffs department and a small army of volunteers. According to legend, two things were supposed to happen at the bridge. First you had to sit in the middle of the road and wait for a car to come screaming around the curve, the car would speed up and begin blowing its horn for you to move, but you were to hold fast to your position and the car would disappear a second before it struck you… No one was brave enough, or thick enough rather, to try that one… The second thing reported to happen at the bridge was the appearance of a ghostly figure in the swamp next to Dunaway Gardens. The apparition was said to be the lingering spirit of the mother, doomed to search the swamp for her beloved child for eternity…

Yeah.. We couldn’t pass this one up.

Shortly after midnight we loaded a truck with people and headed over to the haunted bridge, a short ride of just a few miles. We knew the layout well, having been on and around the bridge many times. Having traveled north on Roscoe Road for years, the sight of people backed down the little dirt road next to the bridge so they could fish from their tailgates had become a common occurrence. We had all been down there before and knew that you could walk under the bridge on the north shore of the creek and see the graffiti left there over the years. Indeed, that place was the setting for one of the more harrowing horror stories of my youth that was told to me by a guy on a school bus years before. When I was younger the old quarry was clear of the growth of shrubs and trees that stand in it now, back then you could clearly see where the stone had been cut away from the hillside. I was told that just a few summers before our afternoon bus ride, a scene of horrific devil worship had been found there. A goat had been found hanging upside down from the stone wall, with its throat cut and a pentagram drawn on the ground below it, next to a circle of stone where a fire had been built. He went on to tell me that the area was full of people that were part of a local satanic cult. That set my young mind into a frenzy of paranoia about the area that lasted for several years… My grandfather had added to my childhood fears by telling me that a Sheriff, made famous in a book and later a movie about a local crime kingpin’s arrest and execution, had dumped the bodies of people he had gotten rid of in the same swamp that sat next to the bridge. “He would come down here and turn his dogs out, claiming he was going coon hunting, but we knew what he was doing… He was keeping an eye on everybody around while his boys were out dumping the bodies of anybody that got in the way of his own illegal liquor business..” These thoughts and images were running through my mind as we rode on the back of the pickup down Macedonia Road and made the right turn onto Roscoe towards the bridge.

We crossed over the bridge and turned around where the dirt road started on the right hand side, making sure the car was pointed south towards our home, in case the need for a quick getaway should arise… We piled out of the back of the truck and stood there in a line staring at the bridge, that was an eerie place. Facing south, we looked onto a scene straight from an old werewolf movie. The moon was shining bright, illuminating the fog rising from the swamp as it wafted over the side of the bridge. To the left you could look down the short dirt road and see the light dancing off the surface of the water as it made its way under the bridge to feed the tepid swamp. A cluster of trees hung over the right hand side reaching over the rails of the bridge. Vines had grown down from the trees onto the surface of the road, running into one of the drains cut through to allow water to drop into the creek below. The air wasn’t moving at all, the silence was deafening as we walked slowly toward the bridge.

We didn’t speak as we walked the bridges length, once at the north end we turned and started back, stopping in the middle to look around. Nervous conversation had started on the walk back, daring one another to sit in the middle of the road and wait for the reported ghostly car to round the curve, and tempting any ghosts that may be hanging about to come out and speak to us..

I walked to the right side of the bridge and looked out onto the swamp, I was thinking about the tales my grandfather had spun as everyone around me talked loudly in a much more relaxed fashion when suddenly a loud crash sounded out, the entire bridge began to vibrate as the sound echoed across the swamp. The blood drained from everyone’s face as we stood transfixed, unable to consider moving. The adrenaline was pumping and the heart rates increasing as we looked from face to face for a reaction, slowly we began to move toward the truck.. Shortly we were all running as fast as we could, diving over the sides into the bed of the truck shouting to the driver to get the hell out of there… He decided not to cross the bridge, so we headed north towards Roscoe. We took the first left and sped as fast as we could to a church parking lot down the road… we sat there for a while breathing hard as we discussed our next move… It was decided that we should go back. Since no one was brave enough to walk on the bridge again we wound up driving across it slowly several times to see if the sound reoccurred. The driver once stopped in the middle of the bridge, but was loudly castigated for his actions (while many cans and insults about his mother were hurled at the cab…)

We eventually found the nerve to return to the bridge and repeat the steps that we took that night, and… oddly enough, we were never let down. Each time we went there we would hear the loud bang, it would be different, some times one loud bang, sometimes several at once. You may hear it once during the night hours or many times, never at the same time and never the exact same sound, but with each episode, your blood would run cold and the bridge would vibrate as if pounded on by a large sledge hammer…

We agreed that the sound was the residual haunting of the moment the car broke through the guardrail and hit the water of the creek below us. That place became a haunt for several months worth of late night hours, even including an excursion into the old quarry to seek out the spot where the goat had been sacrificed… and yes.. we did find it, there was a pentagram spray painted onto the rocks at the foot of the wall, almost dead center in the quarry, exactly where the guy on the bus had pointed to years before...

I told my son these stories one night and found myself suddenly in need of a can of soda from the vending machine in front of the Roscoe General Store… I made my way quickly over the bridge, not slowing down or looking, bought a can of soda and began the drive back. I remember the feel of the night air as I let the windows down in the car and slowly drove across that bridge, thinking of those nights so many years ago… I did stop the car on the middle of the bridge and listen for a few minutes. I didn’t hear anything, but damn, that place is still creepy…

Here... eat this

These things came to mind when my son recently acquired his driver’s license…

I think it would be safe to say that “back in the day” there was a whole lot of drinking going on…

The word that comes to mind when I think back on being relatively young is lucky. Lucky that I’m not dead, lucky that I never killed anyone, lucky someone never killed me. I started out in a 1981 Chevrolet Malibu classic.. A four door sedan.. Needless to say, that meant I was chauffeur at large for the people I knew. I had fun for a while. In high school people approached me all the time wanting a ride home, at the time, that was fine with me because it meant gas money… As time went by it became quite a pain in the ass. So I contacted a friends dad that sold cars and told him that I was in the market for something small. He called me a few days later and told me he had a car for me if I was interested. I went over and discovered a 1985 Pontiac fiero.. Perfect for my needs… hey.. I was young, what did I know about lemons? He let me drive it around for the weekend and I decided I wanted it. Thus ended the days of the phone calls, “Hey… want to go to the mall?”

What transpired from that day forward is a blur of color and sound that could only be matched by the fury of a south Alabama tornado.. The festivities would begin on the odd Friday night around elevenish, when everyone’s dates would be over and the gathering would begin… I would have a leg up on them from an early start, after a visit to a local convenience store to stock up on a twelve pack of Budweiser and a bottle of blue nun wine. I had it timed out so that the inventory would be almost depleted by the time they started arriving. Then we would go out drinking…

A few highlights come to mind from around then…

I lived through a live version of the scene in the movie vacation when the camera pans around the car to see each member of the family asleep, finally landing on the dad, sound asleep with the rest of them, just before the big wreck in the desert. We were in an early seventies impala, one of those cars that got around three tenths of a mile per gallon that could comfortably seat around thirty people, screaming down the road I live on, in a curve no less. There we were.. all asleep, just as happy as we could be. Well, passed out was more like it. By some miracle the two of us in the front seat woke up just as we were driving off the side of the road into my brothers front yard, a drop of some six or seven feet down a nice steep bank… I think, “Hey… what, what.. Holy shit..” was the next comment that came out of the driver..

There was the guy in the back yard who, when asked what he was doing on his hands and knees, answered with, “I’m holding on to the grass so I won’t fly off the earth”..

Then there were the late night ventures through the tech tunnel in Atlanta to see what parties were taking place on the Georgia Tech campus… after parking at the varsity.. Those nights usually ended with a drive down Stewart avenue to yell at the hookers and drug dealers..

The night the guy jumped in the car was a good one, “Whatever you guys are looking for I can get for you, drive up in here.. Yeah.. that’s right, up in this hotel complex… right through that gate into that courtyard.” I took one look around at all of the non-English speaking people haunting the dimly lit courtyard in the open doorways of the rooms as they stared the car down with looks of hunger and opportunity and decided it wasn’t the right place to be.. That was the fastest twenty seven point turn I have ever done.. That evening started with turning around in the A&P parking lot wondering why the traffic wasn’t moving, until I realized I wasn’t in line for the light to the exit, but was in line to talk to the hookers..

One night started out in the parking lot of the boat ramp on the Chattahoochee river at Whitesburg… When we arrived, there were two street lights across the river, and at last count there were four or five. We woke up the next morning wondering just how in the world we made it back home… a thought that still haunts me to this day..

One of us had imbibed too much one night and was about to be ill when I thought of something that might be funny… We were hanging out on the road in front of our house as he was lamenting his condition, “I’ll bet I can get him to throw up in less than ten minutes.” is the thought I had. I ran into the house, stumbled into the kitchen and proceeded to make a three inch thick sandwich with tons of mayo, salt, pepper, and lays potato chips, with just a few drops of mustard for flavor… the three inch thickness of the sandwich was after compressing it down from about eight inches.. I dutifully ran back outside handing the conglomeration over in triumph with the words, “Here eat this, it’ll make you feel better.. I promise..” Yep… less than ten minutes later…

Another night found us in the car as the statement, “Holy shit.. You are bleeding…“ was said out loud. Only god himself knows how that paper bag covered in blood wound up in the church parking lot… a mystery that will haunt me until my dying day…

The absolute highest moment of pride came the night it all ended though… I was surrounded by a group of Carrollton’s finest in a garage that I quickly noted was luckily without any camera coverage. They closed in around me in a tight circle as a short, red headed deputy stood on his tip toes, got in my face and said, “Well then do something about it boy…” That exchange was prompted by me saying, “Hey… don’t do that… it hurts..” immediately after they pulled me from the back of the squad car by my left elbow, while I was wearing handcuffs… those cars ain’t built for fat people…

Several months and a court appearance later, I had my life back. I decided then I would take a road less traveled, so I turned to the side and headed off into the woods. It only took the sound of a cell door being shut behind me one time to cure me of all that nonsense.

I have been brutally honest with my son about what could happen to him as he heads out on his solo adventures since garnering his license… I’ve talked to him for years about what is right and what the prices are for not toeing the line. I heard the comment the other day of, “I can’t wait to be that comfortable with it.” when I said that saying to my son, “Run to the store and get..” was one of the coolest things ever. I responded with, “I don’t think I will ever be comfortable with it, I just have to take a deep breath trust him.” Famous last words I know, but there comes a time when you have no choice, you just have to let it happen.

I think that I have instilled a fair amount of common sense into him, maybe its just paranoia.. But then that might be a good thing, fear keeps people in line.. doesn’t it?